Internalizing Our Numbers

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There's a lot of bad habits we accumulate as type 1s. Not changing our lancets, scattering our used test strips all across the globe, over-treating our lows...the list goes on. But a particularly bad habit we have is internalizing our numbers.

When I say "internalize," I mean we take our numbers too close to heart. We see them as a direct indicator of how good or bad we are doing at life. 

When I say numbers, I am referring to many things - our sugars, our A1Cs, our percentage of time in range. 

Over-identifying is something I talked about in my last post about guilt. We tend to see our numbers as a direct reflection of who we are as people. And we put a lot of stock in the numbers we are inundated with on a daily basis. We're all familiar with the dreaded trip to the lab to get our A1C checked, and the tense waiting period until we get our report card delivered to us by our doctor.

A word to healthcare providers

To be clear, numbers are an integral part of diabetes. Aside from our gut feelings, they are the only somewhat clear indicators we get in this ambiguous, ever-changing disease. Also, doctors love numbers. Numbers are data. This is definitely a factor in the development of this habit. We have the message "lower A1C" drilled into our heads by our diabetes team. We see the looks of disapproval when our numbers are higher than preferred. And for sure, we all try our best to keep our numbers in a reasonable range. There is no doubt that numbers in range keep us in better health. But numbers are also rigid. They are a spot, a speckle on the vast map of our life with diabetes. And taking numbers at face value can lead to unnecessary stress. It shouldn't be that a high A1C result delivered by a stern endo causes a slow spread of shame across our psyche.

For example, consider A1C. Anyone on a medical team who hears an A1C of 10% will not be able to stop themselves from spiraling off into a lecture of how awful you are doing. But maybe your last A1C was 14%. Or maybe your health insurance termed last month and you've been rationing your insulin. There are so many factors that are hiding behind the numbers. This is an important thing to remember if you are a healthcare provider, or if you know someone with diabetes. Don't jump the gun. Gently explore what is going on with your patient from a non-judgmental, not-knowing place. It's so easy to delegate people into the dichotomy of "bad/good" A1C," which then often translates into "bad/good" diabetic, or "bad/good" person.

Being kind to ourselves

On our end, we must work to be kinder to ourselves. In the world of social media, it's especially easy to fall into the trap of comparing our numbers to others'. It's easy to see another person's flat line on their Libre and assume they're having a great day. But, as we all know, there's usually a deeper story. Work goes into those numbers. Stress. Blood, sweat, and tears. And sometimes they're not the numbers desired.

So, the first step is, stop comparing. Focus on you, and your care. Your body is different from any other body, whether it's a fellow body with diabetes or not.

Next step, take your numbers in context. Remember they are only a piece of your diabetes. Use them to inform how you care for yourself, but don't make a mountain of them.

And finally, advocate for yourself. Don't let others make you feel badly about your numbers. They are yours to feel how you want about. If your doctor or your partner or an annoying stranger is solely focused on the numbers, speak up. No one deserves to feel ashamed of their care. We're all doing the best we can.